Chantelle Butch wrote us saying that she has a really, really hard time saying no to people.
Chantelle Butch 寫信告訴我們她很難、很難向人們說不。
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How do you say no?
你怎麼說不?
I think this especially happens with people that are either really awkward or have been bullied a lot. They just really wanna be nice to people and have people like them.
我想這情況特別會發生在要不是真的很不靈光就是經常被霸凌的人身上。他們就真的很想對人好,然後讓人喜歡他們。
Just say no! You wanna please people, we all wanna please people, but you gotta say no sometimes.
就說不啊!你想要取悅人,我們都想要取悅人,但你有時必須說不。
If you're not taking care of yourself, how the hell are you gonna take care of other people?
如果你連自己都沒照顧了,那你到底要怎樣照顧其他人?
Practice in the mirror! Go into your bathroom and just say "no" in the mirror.
對鏡子練習!進去廁所然後就對著鏡子說「不」。
You...you're turning down an opportunity, but saying no can also lead to opportunities, because saying no makes people want you more.
你...你在拒絕一個機會,但說不也可以通往許多機會,因為說不讓人們更想要你。
Maybe you should consider how awkward it is saying no versus how difficult it is to do what they ask you to do, and then kind of weigh and measure.
也許你應該考慮一下,拒絕的尷尬程度對上去做人們請你做的事的困難程度,然後稍微衡量一下。
People are used to hearing no. I think that's something we forget is that we think that everybody else in the world has said yes and that I'm gonna be the first person to say no to them. Everybody's heard the word "no" before. Everybody's had to deal with rejection of some sort.
人們習慣聽到不。我覺得那是件我們忘記的事,我們以為世界上其他人都說好,然後我會變成第一個對他們說不的人。每個人以前都聽過「不」這個字。所有人都得面對某種拒絕。
If it doesn't make you feel good and if you don't think it's the right thing to do, you shouldn't do it.
如果那讓你感覺不好,然後如果你不覺得做那是件正確的事,你就不應該做。
- 「有困難」- Have A Hard Time
Chantelle Butch wrote us saying that she has a really, really hard time saying no to people.
Chantelle Butch 寫信告訴我們她很難、很難向人們說不。 - 「照顧」- Take Care Of
If you're not taking care of yourself, how the hell are you gonna take care of other people?
如果你連自己都沒照顧了,那你到底要怎樣照顧其他人? - 「拒絕」- Turn Down
You...you're turning down an opportunity, but saying no can also lead to opportunities...
你...你在拒絕一個機會,但說不也可以通往許多機會... - 「習慣於、適應於」- Be Used To
People are used to hearing no.
人們習慣聽到不。 - 「處理、面對」- Deal With
Everybody's had to deal with rejection of some sort.
所有人都得面對某種拒絕。