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Many of us want to be in happy and meaningful relationships. But nowadays, in a dating scene plagued with superficiality and an abundance of choice, making a relationship long term while staying sane is much easier said than done. The initial spark is great, but it takes a lot more than attraction to sustain a relationship. What are some ways we can keep a healthy relationship and ensure longevity with our partners? you may ask. Here are 12 signs you are in a healthy relationship.
很多人都想擁有幸福且有意義的愛情。然而在現今充斥著表面假象和多元選擇的感情狀態之中，要明智地讓感情長久其實是說時容易做時難。一開始擦出愛苗固然很好，但要維繫一段感情需要付出更多，光吸引是不夠的。你也許會問：有哪些方法可以讓我們保有健康的感情關係並與另一半長長久久呢？這裡有十二項指標，說明你是否處在一段健康良好的關係之中。
One: You communicate openly. A great relationship starts with transparency. Do you feel like you can communicate about anything with your partner from personal needs to taboo topics? Do the both of you take the time to listen and empathize with each other? Good communication means using assertive techniques, which includes welcoming body language, concentrated listening, and respectful language.
一：敞開溝通。良好關係的建立始於談話透明。從私人需求到禁忌話題，你是否覺得你能跟另一半聊所有事呢？你們倆有沒有好好花時間傾聽並顧惜彼此呢？良好溝通需要使用明確的技巧，包含表示歡迎的身體語言、專注聆聽和禮貌談吐。
Two: You argue. This might sound strange, but arguing sometimes is actually healthy in a relationship. Otherwise, you're probably just bottling up your feelings and letting them turn into resentment. Couples who communicate well can argue effectively. Both parties can state their opinions while trying to understand where the other person is coming from. They also know when to apologize when they are wrong. This point, however, shouldn't be confused with destructive fighting in which couples use aggressive behavior and language to hurt each other when they disagree about an issue.
二：起爭執。這可能聽起來怪怪的，但有時候在一段感情當中起爭執其實是好事。否則，你可能只會把情緒悶著，最後變得憤恨不平。溝通良好的伴侶的爭執能發揮正面效果。雙方雖然都有自己的意見，但也同時試著了解對方在想什麼。他們也明白自己犯錯的時候要向對方道歉。然而這不能跟毫無建設性的吵架混為一談，因為在這種吵架中，伴侶透過攻擊性的言行舉止在彼此無法取得共識時互相傷害。
Three: You keep relationship details private. It's normal to turn to close friends and family for relationship advice when you run into conflict with your partner. But making your problems public on social media is passive-aggressive and can damage the trust you've built with them. Everyone needs a sense of privacy to feel safe, including relationships.
三：維護感情隱私。向密友與家人尋求感情上的建議是人之常情，特別是在你和另一半起衝突的時候。但讓問題在社群媒體上公開是一種被動攻擊，這會摧毀你和另一半之間建立的信任。人人都需要有隱私才能建立安全感，感情也是這樣。
Four: You don't hold grudges. The more you get to know your partner, the more you may get on each other's nerves—which is normal. We all get a little agitated from time to time and say and do things we don't mean that can upset our partners. But holding a grudge even after they apologize sincerely can hurt your relationship in the long run. Be sure to talk things out instead when you're upset, and learn to let go.
四：不對事情耿耿於懷。越了解伴侶，就越容易惹毛彼此－－這滿正常的。我們難免會有情緒激動的時候，無心的言行也會讓另一半生氣。但對方誠心誠意地道歉之後你依然耿耿於懷的話，從長期來看小心眼還是會傷害感情。記得不爽的時候要說出來，並且學習讓事情過去。
Five: You have realistic expectations. The perfect partner doesn't exist. It takes a lot of work to keep a relationship going. Healthy couples understand that the key to a long-lasting relationship is commitment, open communication, and compromise.
五：抱有務實期望。完美情人是不存在的。延續感情需要付出很多的心力。關係良好的伴侶明白長久穩定的感情關鍵是承諾、敞開溝通和讓步。
Six: You take time and space for yourself. Being in a healthy relationship doesn't mean you're glued at the hip. It means you can have separate lives, interests, and friends, and maintain your own sense of individuality without fearing that your partner is going to be jealous or resentful. Having a life outside of a relationship is essential.
六：留給自己時間和空間。感情好不代表你們之間非得黏得要命。感情好代表你們可以有各自的生活、興趣、朋友，並能維持你們的自主性，不用擔心另一半會吃醋惱怒。保有在感情關係之外的生活是非常重要的。
Seven: You trust each other. Healthy couples can spend time away from each other without worrying about their whereabouts or who they're with. Stalking a partner on social media and asking them for constant updates, however, are signs of trust issues or codependency. Trust means respecting your partner's decisions and feeling secure.
七：信任彼此。感情健康的伴侶可以度過各自的時光，不用擔心另一半去哪或者跟誰在一起。但是，在社群媒體偷偷追查另一半的行蹤並要求他們不停更新近況是缺乏信任和過於依賴的跡象。信任代表尊重另一半的決定並能感到放心。
Eight: You enjoy spending time together, whether that means dinner dates or cuddling on the coach, you enjoy spending time with your partner, no matter what. A healthy relationship involves taking time out of your busy schedule to connect with your partner. It's not just an obligation but a way for you to enjoy life.
八：喜歡和對方在一起的時光，不管是晚餐約會或是依偎在沙發上，你無論如何都很享受跟另一半在一起的時間。健全的感情意味著就算再忙也會抽空陪陪另一半。這不是義務，而是享受生活的方式。
Nine: You're friends. Great couples share common interests, enjoy hanging out together, and making each other laugh. Just like best friends, healthy couples can talk about anything and confide in each other without fear of judgement. It's important to feel comfortable with your partner.
九：你們是好友。關係良好的伴侶有著相同興趣、喜歡一起出去閒晃，也會讓彼此開懷大笑。就像最好的朋友一般，感情好的伴侶無話不談，他們向彼此吐露真心話，絲毫不擔心被對方論斷。在另一半身邊感到自在是很重要的。
Ten: You make decisions together. Healthy relationships aren't a power struggle. They are a partnership that allows both individuals to have equal say. If you disagree on which restaurant to go to for your date, one of you may have to give in. But next weekend, the choice should be yours. Compromise is key.
十：你們會一起做決定。健康關係不是權力鬥爭。而是雙方皆能平等參與的夥伴情誼。如果你們在決定約會的餐廳時意見分歧，其中一方可能就得讓步。但是隔週的決定權就是屬於另一方的。讓步是關鍵。
Eleven: You get intimate. Yes. Sex is extremely beneficial in healthy relationships but so is intimacy. Intimacy can be bonding—sexually or otherwise, familiarity, or romance. Maintaining a healthy relationship means courting your partner with affection, quality time, gift-giving, or other forms of love language.
十一：你們很親密。沒錯。在健康的感情關係中，性生活相當有幫助，但親密生活也不可或缺。親密生活可以是一種結合－－性方面或是其他方面，親暱舉止或浪漫舉動。維繫良好感情需要用滿滿愛意、付出寶貴時光、送禮或是其他形式的愛之語向另一半求愛。
Twelve: Lastly, you make each other better. Fixing is not the same as supporting. Healthy relationships consist of couples that love one another for who they are, not who they want them to be.
十二：最後，你們讓彼此變得更好。要求對方改進並不是支持。健康的情感關係是：彼此愛對方原本的模樣，而不是要求他們變成自己想要的樣子。
Are there items on this list that you and your partner practice regularly? Let us know in the comments below.
上面有哪些項目是你和另一半常常做到的呢？在下方留言處讓我們知道吧。
- 「說時容易做時難」- Easier Said Than Done
But nowadays, in a dating scene plagued with superficiality and an abundance of choice, making a relationship long term while staying sane is much easier said than done.
然而在現今充斥著表面假象和多元選擇的感情狀態之中，要明智地讓感情長久其實是說時容易做時難。 - 「掩飾、掩蓋（情緒）」- Bottle Up
Otherwise, you're probably just bottling up your feelings and letting them turn into resentment.
否則，你可能只會把情緒悶著，最後變得憤恨不平。 - 「耿耿於懷、記仇」- Hold Grudges
Four: You don't hold grudges.
四：不對事情耿耿於懷。 - 「（人）黏在一起」- Glue At The Hip
Being in a healthy relationship doesn't mean you're glued at the hip.
感情好不代表你們之間非得黏得要命。 - 「向某人吐露心聲、秘密」- Confide In Someone
Just like best friends, healthy couples can talk about anything and confide in each other without fear of judgement.
就像最好的朋友一般，感情好的伴侶無話不談。他們向彼此吐露真心話，絲毫不擔心被對方論斷。
