Breakups suck. And there's no way around them other than going through the hoops. As painful as it is right now, we want you to know that it won't always be this way. Here are the seven stages of heartbreak.
分手真的糟透了。除了親身經歷這些痛苦之外，沒有其他方法能逃避。現在的你雖然非常痛苦，我們想讓你知道不會一直這麼痛苦的。以下是分手後會經歷的七個心理階段。
One: Obsession for Answers
一：亟欲想知道答案
We often yearn for closure because the confusion hurts too much. But closure doesn't always come. And more importantly, it doesn't change the outcome. You might be determined to gather answers from your ex-partner's family, friends, or coworkers, but eventually, playing detective gets old, which is why you move to stage two—denial.
我們都渴求一個答案，因為困惑令人痛苦。但並不一定總是會有答案。更重要的是，知道答案也改變不了結果。你有可能決心要從前任的家人、朋友或同事身上找到答案，但最終，扮演偵探只會令人疲乏、厭倦，這也是為什麼你會往下一階段前進－－否認現實。
You might have stopped searching for clues and answers, but this doesn't mean you're ready to accept things just yet. It's too much for you to process still. So you're avoiding it for now, hoping it's just a bad dream you'll wake up from.
你可能不再找線索或答案，但這不代表你準備好要接受事實了。對你來說，承受和處理這件事情對你來說還是太困難了。所以你現在還在避免面對這件事情，希望這只是場噩夢，你很快就會醒來了。
Three: Sorrow
三：悲傷
But no matter how hard you try denying the truth, it eventually catches up to you. You start asking yourself, "Why me?" And this time, you really let the waterworks out.
但不管你多努力否認現實，最後現實還是會趕上你。你會開始問自己：「為什麼是我？」而這次，你會開始痛哭。
Four: Relapse
四：吃回頭草
So, you finally manage to see the breakup is really happening. But you're not ready to let them go. You try to win them back and come up with a million reasons why they should still be with you.
你最後終於能正視分手是真的發生了。但你還沒準備好要放掉這段感情。你想要挽回他們，想出一百萬個他們得跟你在一起的理由。
Five: Anger
五：憤怒
But it doesn't work. You feel fed up and angry about the situation. You start holding onto grudges because it's better than not holding onto anything at all.
但一切都是徒勞。你覺得受夠這種狀況了，又很憤怒。你開始懷恨在心，因為比起不怨恨任何事情，這樣好受多了。
Six: Acceptance
六：接受
But even then, you eventually grow tired of resenting your ex. So, you try something healthier by accepting the breakup for what it is. You're not necessarily happy about it.
But you're no longer bitter, either.
但即使如此，你最後還是會對怨恨前任感到厭煩。所以你會開始嘗試做一些更健康的事情，也就是接受分手的事實。你不一定會對這種情緒感到開心。但你至少也不再心懷怨恨。
Seven: Hopefulness
七：滿懷希望
Breakups can leave us feeling scarred and doubtful. But the heart knows how to mend over time. When you're ready, you start dating again and see your past relationship as a lesson.
分手讓我們充滿傷痕，處處懷疑。但隨著時間過去，內心會知道要如何修補。當你準備好的時候，你又會開始約會，並將過去的戀情當作上了一課。
It's important to remember that all the heartbreak you go through should be taken as an experience. Each one brings you one step closer to finding that perfect one.
很重要的是，要記得將所有你經歷過的分手當成人生經驗。每一段分手都帶你離完美的戀情更進一步。
Are you going through a breakup? If so, which stage are you in? Please share your thoughts with us below.
你現在正在經歷分手嗎？如果是的話，你現在在哪個階段呢？請在下方和我們分享你的想法吧。
- 「經歷磨練」- go through hoops
And there's no way around them other than going through the hoops.
除了親身經歷這些痛苦之外，沒有其他方法能逃避。 - 「感到厭煩、受夠了」- fed up
You feel fed up and angry about the situation.
你覺得受夠這種狀況了，又很憤怒。 - 「對做某事厭煩」- grow tired of doing something
But even then, you eventually grow tired of resenting your ex.
但即使如此，你最後還是會對怨恨前任感到厭煩。
